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Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Serious thoughts~cuteness and a goodbye

Wanted to share some serious cheekiness (is that a word?) with y'all. How cute are they?
I bought the girls these matching dresses on Etsy. Oh my how sweet are they?? I loved them so much I went back and bought another set (different dress) they are so stinking cute!!

Bug's new haircut. She wanted something different ;) when you have curls, blow drying it straight IS different ! We will see how long this lasts :)


~Dossier work in under way !! Kinda excited, it looks like the paperwork for this adoption is MUCH EASIER then past dossiers :)  YAY!!!  Have apt tonite with my sis to borrow her computer and take a bunch to the notary.
~Waiting on my HS copy to review.....come on come on !!

~Had a really odd conversation  last week.  Thru the course of an hour or so I listened to some strange, not sure what the response they wanted, kind of comments.
Things commented to me ;)

~Is she yours?
~Ethiopia ? Well that's strange Why there ?
~Is it like Russia? My cousin has a child from there. He cost a fortune and he is crazy.

~How much does it cost?
~very sarcastically...WOW, What a deal !
~Your adopting again ? oh, wow.why?
~My foster child was terrified of her social worker, because she was black.

~"I could never saddle my child with a special needs or down syndrome sibling,  it wouldn't be fair to her"
I dont think we are saddling our children with anything but love btw...

Fun times :)

I left feeling irked but not really upset, just off . I answered politely each time, just enough to put it out there but not enough to share my business ya know? They arent bad people, just not adoption minded i guess. The irked feeling stayed with me for a few days. And finally  IT hit me.
BAM!!
THEY JUST DON'T GET IT!  REALLY. Do not  GET IT. PERIOD.
They dont understand WHY we have a heart for this. They say they do, but do they really?
Why do we scrimp and save and go without things we do to pay for another adoption. Now a down syndrome child?  :) :)
 ADOPTION IS NOT ABOUT US. Adoption is NOT to bring glory to US OR OUR FAMILIES. It should not be to GLORIFY  you or your family. It is not to make you feel better or look better. It WILL bring you joy but that comes later ;)
Get ready for it...........

***IT IS TO BRING GLORY TO ....GOD
 IT IS TO BRING GLORY TO THE  .."LEAST OF THESE"
The orphans. The little children.The forgotten and forsaken.

not us.

They had no idea what it means to step out and fight for an orphan. Maybe they  think it should be easy and make you feel good, or why bother??? maybe I'm being too sensitive. maybe or maybe not?



**Especially a SPECIAL NEEDS adoption. This is not about doing what is "comfortable" for us. This is kinda crazy ;) Way outta our comfort range lol.  What seems COOL to our society. It is about following the word of the Lord. Now that we know these orphans are hurting and are slowly dying waiting for a family, We have to act. God wants us to. He knows if we do nothing. HUGE.

~ These children do not have a waiting list of families praying to PICKED to be their mom and dad. They sit sometimes for years WAITING for someone to WANT THEM :(  someone to PICK THEM.
~It doesn't mean everyone can or will adopt, but they  should pray for and be supportive of families that are stepping out and bringing a child into their families.
NOT critical :(

Adoption is beautiful and hard and SO worth it :) It doesn't matter where your child comes from, if they are an orphan and you hear the cry, it is beautiful.

Off my soapbox now :)

~Please pray for sweet Chrissie. She has gone home to be with Jesus. I am so very sad for her family. This baby fought so hard and had so many people praying for her. This just breaks my heart :( goodbye sweet girl. click here....


hugs.

8 comments:

Tara said...

your girls are so beautiful, and congrats on your new little one!

Are These Kids All Yours? said...

UPSET WITH YOU! I can't wait to hear more from your latest addition!!!! God calls us to do HIS WILL- not our own! Whatever that is!!! I pray for strength in dealing with those that don't get it. In the meantime- YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING!!!!!!!!!! LOVE IT!!! As usual your girls are sooo CUTE!

Lindy said...

You are so right Maria, people that talk like that really haven't "got it"...yet..hopefully;) I had someone ask me this week "Why Ethiopia, why not adopt from America?" Of course America has orphans that need a home. But the question shouldn't be that. There are SO many children that need a home & it shouldn't matter where we save these children from, they ALL deserve love, family and home.
I am SO excited for you and cannot wait to meet your new little angel:)

P.S. LOVE the girls matching outfits, would make for a great photo shoot ;)

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Lisa said...

Ugh silly people. Im shocked with the questions that come to me about my children. I have yet to be witty about it like I would like. You are awesome and so sad most just don't get it. I am SO SO SO happy that you are adding this precious one to your family. Your children will only gain from this.

Kristin Ferguson said...

Maria, your girls are absolutely adorable!! Taya is going to fit right in because she is beyond adorable too! :)

Josi (my daughter with Ds) has added so much to our lives and our boys have benefitted from being her brothers. They don't always handle life with Josi graciously, but they're learning! :)

Can't wait until you go get her!

Kristin

the andersens said...

I love your heart for adoption and how grounded in scripture it is. LOVE IT! I stumbled across Recee's Rainbown a few months ago and my heart was broken. Can't wait to hear more about your new little one!!!!

Melissa

Anonymous said...

Don't let these ignorant people get you down. They really do not get it! I had family members who really love my daughter say the most astonishing things--they really don't understand. I have had an "educated" family member (an in-law, of course) send me a youtube video about an illegal immigrant in a coma on a ventilator being shipped back to Guatemala because he didn't have health isurance and was draining the hospital millions of dollars. What does that have to do with me?? Ohhhh my daughter is from Guatemala. Hmm. My best friend has said some really mean and hurtful things about adoption. She has also said that she would like to adopt, but doesn't think it's fair to "take someone's child. We should just give them the money they need to raise them"; then she went and bought a purebred dog from a breeder--couldn't get herself to adopt from the SPCA because "you just dont know."

I have tried to explain things to people , but I don't think they really want to know, or don't really care, or, again, just don't get it. But, that's their problem not mine--I feel sorry for them. Our lives our so much richer because of my duaghter. I know what true love feels like.

You have a beautiful family and God has opened your eyes and your heart. Stay strong! God bless you!

"...Once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls knows that we know, and holds us responsible to ACT..." Proverbs 24:12

"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." James 1:27
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." -(Mahatma Gandhi)